Why Won’t My Cat Sleep In Bed With Me? 7 Reasson

If you’re like me, when you have a cat, the answer is easy: they don’t like to sleep in beds with you. I know this because my cat, Zee, doesn’t like to sleep in beds with me, and I’ve been forced to live with him for over 20 years now.

Have you ever found yourself in this situation? You’re ready to go to sleep, your cat has finally agreed to lie down next to you, and then… he starts purring. “Come on, kitty, it’s time to go to bed!” But your cat is just too content to stay in the comfy bed you prepared for him. He wants to snuggle and watch you sleep instead. No amount of cajoling, pleading, or scolding can convince your cat to leave the bed. What should you do in this scenario?

One of the hardest things about being a pet parent is that your kids will probably always want to spend time with their own children, while your cat will spend his or her life playing with you.

Why Your Cat Won’t Sleep With Me?

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You fidget in your sleep

At some time in your life, I’m sure you’ve shared a bed with an active sleeper. It’s no pleasure getting booted while attempting to catch forty winks.

Consider things from your cat’s point of view. If you move your arms or legs a lot or roll over in your sleep regularly, your cat is in for a wild trip.

Rather than being thrown out of bed or squished by your body, your cat may wind up sleeping on your head or looking for a secure place to sleep for the night.

 It’s too hot or cold

Cats and humans do not have the same optimal body temperature. A environment that is warm or cool for you may be too hot or cold for your cat.

Your cat may feel chilly and uncomfortable resting on top of you when you’re all snuggled up beneath the blankets.

On the other hand, your body heat makes it considerably difficult for your cat to remain cool under all that hair on a hot night.

Your bed isn’t high enough

Cats, very simply, enjoy being in the air. It’s an instinct they received from their forefathers in the wild.

Your cat will feel comfortable at high areas, where the dog and other problems will not be able to approach her.

When cats are sleeping, they are most vulnerable, therefore if Kitty doesn’t think your bed is high enough, she may not feel comfortable resting there.

Your bed is too high

Your cat, on the other hand, may not be able to climb up onto your bed if she is aged, wounded, or ill.

So it’s less of a matter of why won’t and more of a case of why can’t I sleep with my cat any more.

Something scared her

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If your cat was startled while resting on your bed, she may have opted to avoid that area for a time.

Cats remember everything that happens to them, both good and bad, thus a change of resting area may merely be for the sake of peace of mind.

She doesn’t like to share

Do you have any additional pets who lie on your bed or have just begun to do so?

Your cat may not appreciate the notion of sharing her sleeping quarters with another cat or dog, even if they get along during the day.

She found an upgrade

Don’t be insulted, but your cat may have discovered a comfortable sleeping location. However, by cat standards, we’re talking better.

So her new favorite location may be anything from a comfy kitty bed to a garage cardboard box.

Perhaps she has a few favorite napping areas that she alternates between.

How to Make Your Cat Sleep With You Again

Encourage playtime during the day.

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Tire your cat out during the day to help them sleep better at night. If you’re not at home during the day, leave your cat toys out to give indoor enrichment for your feline companion. Make sure your beloved feline has plenty of toys to swat around and play with at their leisure. Catnip-filled toys are a good option since the catnip stimulates and encourages your cat to play rather than slumber all day. If your cat doesn’t like catnip, try silver vine, a catnip substitute that has been shown to interest cats in ways that catnip doesn’t.

Interact just before bedtime.

Sit down and play or engage with your cat for 10 to 15 minutes just before you go to bed. You’ll help them get tired and indicate goodnight at the same time, which will help them create a nighttime pattern.

Set a later dinner time.

Before going to bed, feed your cat. Food digestion requires a lot of energy, so you could find that your cat is sleeping better at night. If your bedtime is 11:00 p.m., feed your cat immediately before bedtime – with that 9:30 p.m. playtime we mentioned before. So you exhaust your cat, give them a brief respite, and then serve them their last meal before night. This will encourage your cat to retire for the evening; once they’ve eaten, they’ll begin grooming. They’ll probably snuggle up for a nice night’s sleep after that.

Make the bed appealing for cats.

Cats are odd creatures. They enjoy lying on clean clothing or even a washcloth that has been spilled on the floor. You may, however, take advantage of this! Make a special “cat zone” on your bed with a favorite towel or blanket your cat owns. If you use a blanket or fabric with their aroma on it, you’ll get bonus points!

You may also place a low-temperature heating pad in front of them to draw them to the warmth (be sure to turn it off before bedtime).

Entice them with treats.

If you’re not sure, entice your cat with catnip (or a quick crunchy treat). Sprinkle a small amount of catnip on the towel you’ve placed out to encourage them rolling about. Sure, catnip gets them thrilled, but it also makes them drowsy – and hey, they’re already on a warm, cozy blanket, so why not snooze here?

Forcing your cat to stay in bed with you is a certain method to encourage your cat to do the exact opposite of what you want.

Consider a cat bed

It’s sometimes preferable to take little moves. Sleeping in your room is the next best thing to having your cat sleep in your bed with you.

A cat tree with a bed allows your cat to have her own place while also keeping her off the floor, making her feel safe.

You may gradually bring a conventional cat bed closer to yours until you can place Kitty’s bed on yours to help her back.

Create Space

When it comes to sleeping with a cat, the key to success is for both of you to be at ease.

You and your cat will be able to walk about freely without bothering each other if you give them enough space.

In an ideal world, you might purchase a larger bed to satisfy everyone. However, even eliminating a few unwanted pillows and cushions may make a difference.

Adjust the temperature

If you believe your cat has abandoned you because of the room temperature, attempt to make her feel more at ease.

This may be as easy as giving her a nice blanket to snuggle under in the winter or making sure there’s no draft coming in.

On warmer evenings, consider whether a fan or air conditioning will help you and your partner keep cooler.

Address height issues

why wont my cat sleep with me

If your cat is having trouble getting onto the bed, you have a few alternatives.

There are several pet stairs available to assist your cat get up and down from your bed on her own.

Allow your cat to sleep on a pillow or two if you believe she wants to be higher up. It should add a couple of inches to your height.

Routine and Reward

Getting your cat into a bedtime routine might help.

Keep her busy during the day, feed her in the evening, and then play with her one more time as she accompanies you into the bedroom.

If your cat follows you into the bed, give her a treat, such as a salmon cat treat, to make the experience more pleasant for her.

Don’t push it

“How can I convince my cat to sleep with me again?” I know you asked.

But you don’t want to stress your cat out by pushing her to do something she doesn’t want to do.

To lure your cat back to your bed, employ a steady and careful approach. Alternatively, you may have to accept that she prefers to sleep somewhere else.


I’m not saying that you can’t have a happy relationship with your cat. In fact, it’s pretty much impossible to not enjoy your pet. What I am saying is that if you can’t sleep with your cat, you’ll need to work out some kind of compromise, even if you think you’re being generous.

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